In the past few months, I can’t tell you how many times I have replied to the question “how are you?”, so I thought I would create a post containing some of the responses, truthful or not, which I have said in reply to this.
1. I’m fine, how about you? The easy way out. Sometimes I know that’s what people want to hear and there are circumstances where it’s not appropriate to go into a huge detailed answer about how I’m really feeling. There are other times where answering with fine can get you out of being given the 20 questions you would have if you answered honestly. Really, it’s just more simple to go with being fine.
2. Good days and bad days. People don’t need to know that in fact, the ratio of bad: good days is very unbalanced, but it lets people know that you’re not in a pitch black ditch. It gives comfort to others that with bad, there is good and that makes things better.
3. Good, thank you. Could be true, could be a big lie. Either way, it pleases other people.
4. Could be better, but thanks for asking. How are you? Basically meaning I really don’t want to talk about it and I don’t want the focus of the conversation to be me. I hope that people pick up on the cue and don’t proceed to question me. It will likely end up with me upsetting myself or the other person.
5. Not amazing. Not even close to being amazing. Whatever the opposite of amazing is, that’s how I am really feeling. I feel like I never want to admit that I’m not doing good, so I try to think of other ways around saying it. This is probably one of them.
6. Things are a bit of a mess right now, but I’m coping. Probably the most truthful answer I would give. I am coping, but I have no idea what I’m really doing and all my life goals are a bit of a mess. I am okay though.
I think these are the most common of my responses, but I’m sure there are others which I have missed. It can be difficult to be truthful with people about raw emotions, but I think as long as you have a close group who you are honest with, it’s okay to conceal emotions from others.